Fathers Get Short End of the Stick in Child Custody Cases
Women tend to complain that they didn’t get what they deserved in a divorce, but in many cases, men are the ones who suffer. Even though child custody is supposed to be based on the best interests of the children, that is not always the case. Throughout time, mothers have always been seen as the better caretakers. In fact, in 80 percent of cases, women are the primary custodial parent. Therefore, in many child custody cases, judges still tend to favor mothers over fathers.
It is hard for a non-custodial parent to juggle careers, child custody and child support. The parents often do not agree on certain issues, leaving it up to judges to decide what is best for the children.
Many men complain that the legal system has let them down. Many are unable to pay child support and are left to sit in jail, which does nothing to resolve the issue. If the man isn’t working, he isn’t earning money to pay child support. Some go into bankruptcy and lose their jobs, complicating things even further. They end up in a downward spiral.
Some fathers are banned from seeing their children at all. Some mothers will lie and say that the father has been abusing the children. These men get restraining orders against them and are unable to even visit their children.
Under the law, judges should not favor one parent over the other in child custody cases based solely on the parent’s gender. Judges should be looking at a variety of factors, such as who has been the child’s primary caregiver as well as the child’s preferences. However, many judges are old-fashioned. Many have been judges for decades and are unwilling to change their minds about certain things. They tend to believe that the woman’s place is at home caring for the children while the man should be the one working.
Many men stop paying child support, which can hurt their case. Even if they are facing financial difficulties, the best advice is to pay what they can. If they need to modify their support amount, they should go to court. Simply ignoring the matter will only make things worse.
Getting a lawyer is also a good idea. A lawyer understands the law and can give good advice for a man who wants to get custody of his children.
Above all, the father needs to make a good-faith effort. Refusing to take a job or ignoring a child support will be frowned upon by a judge.
Seek Help for Your Child Custody Case
In a divorce, children come first. Judges are to decide child custody based on the child’s best interests. However, many still favor mothers and often award them primary custody. This is often devastating to the fathers, who work hard and want to be a part of their children’s lives.
If you are going through a divorce and are facing child custody issues, the Dade City family law attorneys at Mander Law Group can help. We will fight for your rights to see your children. Schedule an initial consultation by calling (800) 557-0411.